Bridesmaids and Groomsmen: How to Reduce the Cost of Being in the Wedding Party

Sure, your best friend’s been planning her wedding since second grade, but doesn’t she know there’s a recession going on? Simply attending a wedding can cost big bucks, but if you’re a bridesmaid or groomsman the financial obligation starts to feel like a second mortgage payment. Take some of the burden off with these tips for reducing the cost of being in the wedding party.

Set a Limit - This is a good tip to practice ahead of time because you never know when the moment will arrive. Your friend, cousin or tennis partner will call up with the exciting news—they’re engaged! And the wedding just wouldn’t be the same without you standing up at the front, too. Rather than just shouting yes in a fit of enthusiasm, tell your lovely friend that there is nothing you would rather do, but money is tight. By laying the groundwork early, you are already being open and honest about your financial situation. This will end up saving you money down the road.

Shop Secondhand - If the bride is picking a dress and shoes from a major retailer, there’s a chance you could find it secondhand. Check on eBay and Craigslist. You might be able to score a great deal from another bridesmaid who only wore the items once.

Share with Others - Cut lodging costs by finding out who else is in the wedding party. Email them a few months before the big day about splitting a hotel room. Sharing a room is like getting it for half price.

Split a Gift - Get the bride and groom a great gift by sharing the cost with a group. You’ll be able to buy a bigger ticket item and you may get away with spending a little less on a gift.

Go For the Less Expensive Option - All the bridesmaids are getting their nails done. That doesn’t mean you have to, too. Opt to get a basic manicure and paint your toes yourself. If all the groomsmen are taking in a round of golf, offer to drive the cart. You can still be a part of the fun without spending lots of money.

Sell or Donate Your Wedding Clothes - Unless you absolutely love your bridesmaid dress or groomsman outfit, try selling it. Believe it or not there are plenty of other frugal wedding party members looking to save a few bucks by buying used. You’ll recoup a little of your spending and they’ll get a great deal on an outfit. If you don’t want to sell it, donate it. Check out FairyGodmothersInc.com or DonateMyDress.org for guidance and information on charitable causes that can benefit from your bridesmaid dress.

By Alison Storm

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